Young Couple Leaning on Car overlooking Farmland, Ile D'orleans, Quebec

Making marriage work on your farm

The dance between farm work and family time will never have a complete resolution

February is Heart Month and a good time to work on the state of your union: marriage, spousal relationships and couple care. John Gottman is a highly respected U.S. psychologist and author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Here I’ve added a farm perspective to his tips based on those seven principles. Sharing […] Read more

If the emotional factors in your farm dynamic are keeping you stuck, now is the time to grab the bull by the horns and say, “Enough!”

Froese: Too much farm drama?

Here are some tools to help you get better at fixing farm fights

As this is Heart Month (February is a time to bring attention to the importance of cardiovascular health), I hope this finds you living a wholehearted life on your farm, not living with a broken heart. The deep emotions we carry as “stoic or stubborn” farmers need to come to the surface and let healing […] Read more


Dave, Gurleen and Adam (l-r) are three farmers looking for the partner of their dreams on a new television show called, Farming For Love.

Editor’s Column: Love on the farm 

Hello, there! You’ve seen my byline for the last year or so in various pages of Grainews, ever since I started working here as an associate editor, but this is my first time writing in this space. I’m filling in for Grainews editor extraordinaire, Kari Belanger, who’s taking a well-deserved break after a hectic winter/spring […] Read more

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The power of perspective

By putting yourself in another person’s position you will gain many insights

One of my favourite Irish sayings is “Every front door looks beautiful!” You never really know what is truly going on in someone’s life until you get to the kitchen table and develop a relationship. The skill to put yourself in someone else’s shoes is called “perspective taking.” Recently during a family meeting as we […] Read more


These farm leaders and managers are opening up with vulnerability to find new ways to be a good father, and a team player.

Froese: Growing to be a good, good father on the farm

Sometimes this involves healing wounds in the family that are keeping the business stuck

I’ve taken to music therapy to lift my mood during this Great Pause, and one of my favourite playlist songs is “Good Good Father” by Chris Tomlin. It helps me keep perspective on the character of God as we are all searching for answers far and wide. It reminds me of the many farm dads […] Read more

Froese: Stop breaking Mom’s heart — deal with your entitlement issues

Froese: Stop breaking Mom’s heart — deal with your entitlement issues

Many people avoid talking about this when it comes to farm transition plans. This has to stop

As Mother’s Day arrives in this Great Pause of 2021, many of you are caught in the messy middle of family dynamics. Let’s jump in and start dealing with the issue of entitlement on your farm team.  I use the words “deal with entitlement.” It’s that Undiscussabull, the bull in the middle of your farm […] Read more


Farm marriages don’t need to get lost in fantasy or romantic dreams, but I do think it is time for validation of farm women.

Froese: Valentine validation of farm women and beyond

Time to affirm that your partner’s feelings and opinions are valid and worthwhile

One of the side-effects of being homebound during the “Great Pause” is that I’ve become very fond of the predictable story arc of Hallmark movies. We have a bit of a game to see if the first kiss is within the last 15 minutes of the show. Farm marriages don’t need to get lost in […] Read more



Where is it written that farm women have to grow a garden?

Unwritten farm expectations

Where is it written that good farm women grow gardens?

Susan Forward who authored Emotional Blackmail has a handy tool for challenging the way things have always been done by saying: “Where is it written?”… _____________. You fill in the blank for the unwritten rule or expectation that you are challenging. Large farm vegetable gardens: “Where is it written that in order to be a […] Read more

How did your father influence your beliefs and attitudes about your farm career?

The father factor in farming

How is Dad’s style of relating affecting your decision-making on the farm?

“Your father’s particular parenting style is the template that forms the father factor in your career… If your father has died, that doesn’t mean that the feelings from the relationship are dead.” — Dr. Stephan B. Poulter, author of The Father Factor: How Your Father’s Legacy Impacts Your Career Poulter believes that we learn from […] Read more