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What if adult farm children don’t behave like adults?

Refuse to interact when you are being talked to in a disrespectful manner

As founders we all want our children to be happy and successful, but when kids have aged into adults we hope they are grateful for opportunity and don’t take advantage of our generosity. When kids have always received something, whether it is money, assets or help, they can come to expect it. A sense of […] Read more


Fired from the farm

How do you tell a son or daughter that they are not a good fit for the farm?

As a farm family coach I hear the struggles of farmers who are used to being able to quickly repair or fix problems that arise daily. When these hard-working, well-intentioned folks have a farming adult child who is not a good fit for the farm, great stress lingers far too long. If you try to […] Read more



A young father with his little son walking in the wheat field at sunset in a warm summer day

Don’t be a fleeing heir or end up in shirt sleeves

Study shows large percentage of families will lose their wealth in succeeding generations

Last month we talked about the great wealth transfer tension; there’s more. Financial planner Anthony Williams describes a study by Investment News suggesting 66 per cent of children will ultimately fire their parents’ financial adviser once they receive their inheritance. These folks are called fleeing heirs. I would like to know the statistic for farm families, as […] Read more


Male gives a gift to female

Gifts with a warm hand, not a cold one

How are you transitioning money to the next generation?

It was great delight to hear Dr. Meir Statman speak to certified financial planners in Halifax at their annual convention in June. He was talking about normal financial behaviours and why culture matters in how we transition our money to the next generation. I clapped when I heard him say, “I believe it is wise […] Read more



Unwritten farm expectations

Where is it written that good farm women grow gardens?

Susan Forward who authored Emotional Blackmail has a handy tool for challenging the way things have always been done by saying: “Where is it written?”… _____________. You fill in the blank for the unwritten rule or expectation that you are challenging. Large farm vegetable gardens: “Where is it written that in order to be a […] Read more


The father factor in farming

How is Dad’s style of relating affecting your decision-making on the farm?

“Your father’s particular parenting style is the template that forms the father factor in your career… If your father has died, that doesn’t mean that the feelings from the relationship are dead.” — Dr. Stephan B. Poulter, author of The Father Factor: How Your Father’s Legacy Impacts Your Career Poulter believes that we learn from […] Read more



Why funerals matter and ways to get ready for yours…

Meeting together has healing properties and planning ahead will help the grieving family

In February at the Boissevain Post Office sorting table there were a record five white funeral notices on display. I am happy to report that the majority was an invitation to the funeral. Why does this matter? There is a trend in 2018 that has likely been building for some time as families avoid conflict […] Read more


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Having the ‘s’ talk on your farm

Don’t wait for an accident to happen before you talk about safety

Like many of you, I’ve checked out the grain bin suffocation demonstration at the farm shows and collected many farm safety brochures. I think this spring is finally the time when we’ll do things more intentionally on our farm. Why now? We experienced family trauma in October during harvest when a key person crashed a […] Read more



How to write a will with joy

Yes it is possible and here’s some tips on how to do it

Today I have encountered three acquaintances who are all dealing with different kinds of loss. One a husband whose wife is suffering from a stroke. One a woman whose nephew is suffering from a mental illness. One who has just buried her mother a few short weeks ago, and is thankful that she got to […] Read more


And… I have a brother farming too

This can present a whole set of challenging situations

Brothers farming together can make for many different, interesting, and somewhat challenging dynamics. Oldest son syndrome. Birth order has been very well researched by Dr. Kevin Leman. Seek out his work for the different traits of first-born sons. My coaching experience tells me that some founders automatically default choosing the oldest son as successor which may not be a great idea if the younger sons or […] Read more