Where is “You don’t talk about money!” written in the farm family rule book? Recently on a coaching call, a farm family admitted a huge “undiscussabull” within the family had caused great stress to their over-40-year-old son. This non-farming son did not have any clue about the profitability of the farm, what the parents needed […] Read more
Create more financial transparency with your farm team
Farm partners need to be able to be frank about their financial realities
Just converse — it feels so good to talk
Know your communication style, and be ready to make room for others’ styles
Being able to talk freely with your farm team and feel they understand what you are needing is a huge gift! Accept you can’t make other people change, but you can change how you respond and handle things. Talking is the work. Decide today that you are going to become more self-aware and self-controlled around […] Read more
How to embrace a positive perspective for farm transition
People who feel their concerns are taken seriously will feel understood
Imagine this is the day you’re hopping out of bed with a new spring in your step as you anticipate the life-changing transaction taking place this afternoon. You, your spouse and your folks are headed to the lawyer’s office to officially sign shareholder agreements. You’re excited to finally have some certainty for your future. How […] Read more
Get the tough and tender transition conversations started in 2024
A farm’s founders may not want the embarrassment if they see a personal net worth lower than expected
Seven years ago, here’s what I said about getting transition conversations started: Show up as adults to attack the issues, do not attack the person who is delivering ideas for change. Understand transition is a journey of many plans, with communication as the foundation. Spend some quiet time with yourself thinking about what you truly […] Read more
Why can’t farm moms ask for what they need?
It could be due to scarcity mindsets, generational neglect of needs or disrespect of in-laws
December can be an emotionally strained month with high expectations for seasonal celebrations and gifts. Last year, due to a myriad of circumstances and miscommunication, my Christmas stocking was skinny, and truthfully, I was disappointed and tempted to feel sorry for myself. When you consider the terrible wars in the Middle East and Ukraine though, […] Read more
Froese: Farmers need to find time for family
There are lots of creative solutions, if you’re willing to put your mind to it
Back in 1987, before some of you reading this were born, I was asked to write about balancing work and family. It’s now 2023, and the same questions come from my audiences around key challenges like how to achieve work/life balance or how to get more family time on the farm. The dance between work […] Read more
Making blended farm families work
It can be a difficult transition, but here are some tools that can help
When you get married, you blend two different styles of family dynamics, and it takes a while to adjust. According to the 2011 Canadian Census, 12 per cent of Canadian families involve step-parenting. You can imagine the adjustments needed when these stepparents run farms. In our coaching practice, we help blended ag families navigate this […] Read more
Why power of attorney is important
For older farmers, it can provide financial protection and peace of mind as they age
Recently a friend was teary as she told me about a sudden change in her mom’s health. When I asked if she had power of attorney for her mother, her answer was a resounding “no way.” Her mom was procrastinating on seeing a lawyer to draw up necessary documents to protect her future. Are you […] Read more
How to reduce stress at harvest
Communication, like combines, can get plugged up during this busy time. Here are some tips that can help
Many of you who read this may view plugged combines as a welcome problem after several years of reduced crops due to drought. I don’t operate a combine any longer, yet I like the word picture or vision of trying to shove in too much crop too fast as a “thunk” (my technical term for […] Read more
Honest communication: The key for farm succession
Unsure of your future on the family farm? Helping Dad share his emotions can achieve clarity for all
The green of spring and summer in this country goes by far too quickly. Our eldest granddaughter turned six two months ago, which means I have just 12 summers left before she launches at 18. Yes, time is going by, and many farms may share this situation. As Mom and Dad age on the farm, […] Read more
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